I was only kidding about the togas....

Alright, who's in charge here?

Thom: You are a good planner. There are seriously a TON of wedding planner checklists:
http://www.bridestuff.com/wedding_checklist.asp
http://weddings.theknot.com/weddingplanning/KnotSearch.aspx?submit.x=9&submit.y=9&quest=checklist

...google "catholic wedding checklist" and "wedding checklist." Sorry, they are mostly bride-related for some reason. Print lists out and write on them. Talk with Fran about which items you both want to add, and which things just aren't "You".

Designate one equal place in your home as the "Wedding Area". Keep all books, notes, checklists, etc. in this area, so you both can easily add to it and nothing has to be tracked down. I will gladly lend support in flaying the person alive who loses a list in their office.

...And I love you guys.

One thing that needs to go out soon is the "Save the Date" postcard. Sam and Cindy did the whole "3 months before" as reccommended, and with mail screwups and trying to secure travel and lodging.... well, let's just say I ain't gonna be in Bermuda in on the 30th, and I'm a tad miffed about it.

Seriously, make a list of everyone you want to invite, print it out and post it in the Wedding Area so either of you can place a checkmark to show that you have notified them, and mark out when they reply, and if they are or are not going to be there. A lot of the decisions that are going to have to be made depends on how many people are going to come. There is a huge monetary difference between 40 and 100 people. Call people to chat and feel them out. By all means, this does not replace the official invitation.

All three of us need to have a face-to-face this weekend, so we can discuss exactly what your budget is going to be, and exactly what type of traditions you want to follow (I'm not talking about the actual ceremony, but the lead up and wind down and getting everyone where they need to be, as well as certan quaintities such as rooting around for the garter afterwards and exit strategies).

Also, I don't really know what you guys want me to do, if you want me to just hang back and lend moral support or if you want me to find stuff or help or what. I want to talk it out in a dedicated conversation, so you two will end up with EXACTLY what you are envisioning, and I'm not constantly wondering if I am stepping on toes by trying to help.

Also, I just want to let you know that you shouldn't worry about time. Kaizen. Step-by-step, sip-by-sip, everything will happen. Everyone will have a good time, you will have a magical experience, and afterwards, you'll have some great photos and some other fun stuff we can talk about this weekend. If I'm not mistaken, you guys get all the fun, and I'm in charge of accepting all the stress.

So, Game On!